Beltane engagment!
Well it happened. I thought I would never walk down this road again, but never say never I guess.
While doing some research on different Beltane traditions for our then upcoming Sabbat Service for the Goddess Temple that we belong to, I found an interesting custom once honored in what is now Northern Italy. During Beltane, a young man would present flowers to one he wished to wed. If she accepted the flowers, then their engagement would officially began.
So once I finally decided to do it and now I knew when and how, I just needed to add all the details.
For several weeks, I worked on what I would say, and would I would have read at the service. I wanted to write up something for our friend Kathy to read, to describe this giving of flower tradition. I wanted everyone to know about what they were about to see when I did it. We usually have several readings at our services, describing the meanings behind the sabbat. And since Kathy is the one who introduced us a year and a half ago, and since it is not unusual for her to do readings, I knew she would be the perfect choice. But I also needed something for me to say. And right from the beginning, I knew I wanted to lead into my proposal with a poem. But not just a poem I found somewhere, I would need to write one. Not a small undertaking for this very non-poetic person.
While working on all that, I was also frantically looking for a ring. I knew I wanted something with Celtic knot work and a solitaire. But where to find it? I looked around online and found lots of really nice rings. But almost all of them were made in Ireland and I didn’t have much time left. I went to a local Irish Importer. They carry gifts, food and jewelry all straight from Ireland. Unfortunately they don’t stock diamond engagement rings in their little store. I don’t know why I thought they might. And guess where they get their rings from? Yep, same place as everyone else. They called the manufacturer in Dublin and they said there was no way they could do it in less than 4-6 weeks and I was down to three!
So I spent another week of trying to figure out what do to. Then I found another website, based out of New Mexico. http://www.artisanweddingrings.com/index.php While they also said 4-6 weeks on there site, they did say to call if you needed it faster even if it was only a few weeks. Well at that time I was down to 2 weeks to go. I gave them a call and he talked with the artist (they are handmade) and they were just to busy to do anything better than 3 weeks. I was crushed. Do I wait and do it without a ring or do I settle for something I could find in time? It only took me about 30 minutes to decide I wasn’t going to settle for anything this time. It was too important to get what she would really want and I hoped she wouldn’t be too disappointed when they time came and I didn’t have a ring.
So I ordered this:

Then I spent the final two weeks tweeking my speech, poem and Kathy’s reading. The last couple days found me running around buying and hiding things like roses, champagne, goblets, etc.
I also met several times with Kathy and other accomplices from our coven, working out my plans for the big day. Kathy and another friend, Linda, braided a temporary promise ring out of ribbons and I needed to give them all the stuff I needed to have, but couldn’t let Sheila see.
Finally the morning of the service was here. I kept telling people all week that I wasn’t nervous and I really wasn’t. But the closer that it got to the moment of truth the more nervous I got. I had practiced my reading and my poem a thousand times and I could do it without reading and without screwing up most of the time. It shouldn’t be a problem, unless I freeze up at the last second.
When we were getting ready to leave I got a call from Kathy telling me that the Pavilion that we have been using for over 6 months was already taken! It has a fireplace and it secluded and perfect for our rituals. Some group had grabbed it up early for a birthday party and they had all the tables covered with their stuff. We feel connected to that place and we were planning on using an existing tree on the site for our May Pole. All this looked in jeopardy. Not only was the whole pavilion taken but the ford across the river right before the pavilion was washed out and closed. This was not looking good.
While we were trying to figure out where to move the service and how to inform everyone who was going and do it all in the 1 1/2 hours we had until our scheduled start time, I got another call from Kathy saying they talked with the birthday party and they agreed to share half the pavilion with us!! I was thrilled, but jokingly wondered if they knew who they just invited to share their pavilion with.
They next obstacle was finding a detour (cause there were no signs posted) around the ford. And just before I got there the water receded and the ford was opened. Thank you Goddess!
So after a rough start, things were back on track.
We got there and had to stall with starting the service. Sheila and I had both invited our families (I told her my Mom, liked the last service for Ostara, and maybe her family would like to see what we do for Beltane) and they were running late. When everyone arrived, we started the service. First we had eight people walk out to the may pole (tree) and tie a flower to the end of each streamer to weigh it down and hold it out and untangled. Then we walked back and Kathy did her opening blessing and a reading about Beltane. Then when I realized she had gotten to the part that I had wrote for here, I really began to get nervous.
I felt a cold sweat starting and my heart was trying to beat itself free. And then she finished and looked over at me…………..It was on…
I stepped out and said my first line and froze. Uh Oh. I laughed told everyone I had practiced this a lot but would feel better if I held the paper in my hands. I took out a sheet of paper from my back pocket and read the first line again, took a deep breath and folded it up and went on.
I got through mine and Sheila’s introduction, since this was a public service, I wasn’t sure if everyone knew us. I also thanked everyone for being there because it was going to be a very special day. I told everyone that I had written a little poem that I wanted to recite. Here is the poem:
On this day, of long ago
When Beltane fires burned so bright.
The Goddess sang and danced with them,
Her children honored the great rite.
Flowers were presented
For promises given.
Handfastings cemented
With ladies in waiting.
Now comes this day, Beltane once more,
As Mother Earth springs forth anew.
I have come with a gift of roses
and I do have a question for you
As I finished my poem, my daughter and Sheila’s sister stepped out with a dozen roses each to present to her. One with red and the other with white, the colors of beltane. Sheila then burst out in tears. Not just tears, full on crying. I heard several other sniffles in the crowd too. My Mom told me even my stepfather even had a tear in his eye.
I then said a few special words to Sheila telling her what she means to me and how much I truly love her, and then in my black cloak and wreath of leaves on my head, I knelt down and asked her if she would” do the honor of marrying me, and being my Goddess forever”
She didn’t even wait for me to finish the whole sentence when, between sobs, she said yes!
She raised me up and we hugged for a few minutes. Then Kathy came up and pulled the promise ring she had made for her from her pocket and gave it to me. I asked if she would accept it as a promise ring as her actual ring is still being made and won’t arrive for another week. I did have a picture for her to see, though. She loved the ring that was made for her and has kept it with her since I put in on her finger. She never expected an actual ring right away, and is thrilled and surprised that she will have one soon. And she says it’s perfect, just what she always wanted. Yayyyyy!!!!
After all the hugging and congratulations we were crowned King and Queen of May and led the dance around the May Pole, intertwining the red and white ribbons all the way down the trunk of the tree.
It was a perfect day! Sunny, breezy, and just beautiful. She loved the whole thing and I was beyond happy that I pulled it off and it made her happy.
I did get my part on video, but it’s not very good. I gave my phone to my brother, but he wasn’t very close. If you turn up the sound you can here most of what I say. There were other people taping there, I will post those when I see them.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oxeo4rEu69A
And here a few pics from the day. I will have more later of the two of us, when people send them to me.
Sheila and her Mom
Our Cake
The Ring
Arthur, Kathy and Josh
Our Pavilion
More Pavilion
Pavilion
Guess what?
Sheila’s Aunt
The Happy Couple
Here’s a few videos from the day
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbjCSN1MjJU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wDviF7rJOU























